Except for:Stating the Obvious

No one and nothing is 100% anything. Relative to ‘nothing’ I’m going out on a limb there because my knowledge and understanding of physics is very limited.

Chromosomally  females are xx and males are xy, yet females produce testosterone and males produce estrogen. Humans are dichotomous. In everything, in every way. Or so I believe.

I will back away slowly from anyone who says they are 100% in anything. There is always an ‘except for…’ As in – personally I hate folk music, except for – Judy Collins, Donovan and a number of Peter, Paul and Mary tunes. This example can be applied to anything.

Hmm, in this little pondering of absolutes I seem to be using a lot of them.

Politics for instance. Using the criteria sane and intelligent, I would be willing to bet no one is 100% liberal or 100% conservative, and if they insist they are then they don’t meet my original criteria. (Well that’s a little judgey now, isn’t it?)

It took me a long time to realize, acknowledge and celebrate that there is no black and white, only shades of grey. And that being dichotomous is one of the great joys of life. (Defining dichotomous as: “If something’s dichotomous, it’s divided into two distinct parts. It can describe a plant whose leaves pair off in opposing buds or anything — a government, a relationship — that has two divisions that are sharply opposed.”

If, at any time, while reading this you say to yourself “She’s contradicting herself,” then Bingo! – you’ve got it.

I could babble on with no end of examples but instead I will ask you to examine your own contradictions; your own dichotomousness – and take pleasure in them, laugh at them, enjoy them. Who knows, you may even re-think them, testing their validity and truth for you.

Not only should we embrace the diversity of the world in general, but embrace the diversity within ourselves.




10 thoughts on “Except for:Stating the Obvious

    1. It’s not that it makes life interesting, it’s that it would make life easier and less contentious. It is a matter of acknowledging the dichotomies in ourselves and respecting them in other people. It is about being open and comfortable with contradictions.

      Let me tell you a story – years ago I was hanging out with some young people who were aspiring opera singers. And this was their whole life, day jobs aside it was all music, all the time – the thing being that they would state that they LOVED music but – only classical. What a bunch of bullshit -if you love music, then you love music – all kinds. I happily went to the opera and enjoyed every minute but the next night I was at some club shaking my tail feather honey! Anyone who says they are all one thing is a flat out liar – most especially they are lying to themselves. And they are also very small people living in a very small world. Appreciation for, and enjoyment of, opposites is what makes life interesting. And we should never have to explain or apologize for our contradictions.


  1. I’ve been laughing at my own dichotomies for years. I’m such a contrary person, liking a bit of everything but not the whole and constantly changing my mind. and I’m happy that everyone else is much the same, why have a world of all-the-same boring people. imagine us all split into different groups: music lovers over here, oyster-haters over there and so on. how dull.

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    1. That people like different things was not my point. That people are by nature contradictory but don’t acknowledge it or embrace it or are tolerant of it in themselves and others WAS my point which I obviously did not communicate clearly.


    1. That may very well be true for cats, I believe for dogs it is different – their dna might be a mix of species, then again those may all be canine species.


    1. People seem to think I am talking about I like this and you like that, and that’s not what I am talking about – obviously we do not all like the same things – I guess I am not clear in my writing or in expressing my thoughts. Maybe I should just stick to kitty pics *sigh* The fault is not in the readers but in the writer I fear.


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